definitions

i have been thinking about the sisters martha and mary. my first bible study was the book "having a mary heart in a martha world" and their story blessed my heart. i have gone back to this book and these verses trying to remember what i should learn from them today's world. men and women today put too much pressure on themselves to be more physically and emotionally than what GOD created them for.

first of all this christmas was the first time in a long time that i did not get everything done that i wanted to. this was also the first time that i didn't apologize for it. it feels pretty good. maybe people noticed, or maybe they didn't. it doesn't matter. we make the choices that stress us out - no one else does. i started thinking about the term that i hear most often from women and that is "i have been so busy." i am starting to wonder if we are choosing that instead of actually putting what's first, first.

women are powerhouses. we work; inside the home and outside the home. we are wives. we are mothers. we are shoppers. we are chauffers. we are everything. men over the years have started to put these roles on as well. we have told them they have to, because we do. it's interesting when you think about it though most men in the bible did not have the woman's role. GOD clearly defined roles for men and women, but somewhere a long the road in the journey of the world women decided that men should be doing what women do.....why? WE HAVE BASICALLY SAID GOD WAS WRONG!

women are notorious complainers. we ask men to do something and then complain about the way it was done. then why ask? in our household due to my illness, i have to ask my husband to do some things that normally i would do...guess what i complain about it afterwards! no wonder he doesn't want to do it. i am realizing as i a get older and study the bible more that he will do it differently than me and in his time frame. why is that wrong? it's not, it's just that society has told me since the time of my birth that it was wrong. we have totally confused our roles. i think that my grandmother was right when she said "women decided to be men and that is what is wrong with the world."

we can't have it both ways. it is a MYTH that we can. if GOD wanted us to be the same, HE would have made us the same. can you imagine if you stopped thinking that way how much pressure you would relieve from yourself physically and emotionally? there are things that i can do better than my husband and there are things that he can do better than me. for the first time in our marriage it is ok that we do not do it the same way. when you do something that is against your nature, it's only going to stress you out more.

stop getting pissed (sorry for the word, needed emphasis!) about what the other isn't doing in your mind and just let them do what they can do. we are making the choice to be this way - no one else. GOD didn't tell us to be this way and if you are HIS child then listen to what HE is saying to you.

38 As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39 She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. 40 But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”
41 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, 42 but few things are needed—or indeed only one.[f] Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”