everyday each one of us wakes up to the world with our responsibilities. each one of us has something that makes us look forward to each and every day. each day is another day to glorify and do the will of GOD. each day HE gives us the grace to make it through another.
the word commitment just doesn't seem to matter anymore. we aren't willing it seems to push forward no matter how hard it is. so many have seem to lost their integrity. we play the blame game instead of sitting down and working the problem out. even our relationship with CHRIST seems to be too much work.
fear of going against what society, our friendships, or what our families think is what drives most of us. take for instance our relationships - marriage. i do not pretend to understand what happens in marriages that end in divorce. some are really bad marriages; emotional and physical abuse should not be tolerated and i don't think GOD would condemn you for getting out. HE wants you to be safe in spirit and mind. for others it seems that we are seeking something from our spouses that they cannot give. true joy comes from CHRIST. the peace in your heart and mind comes from HIM.
divorce has caused me great judgement in others and that is my issue. i am a child of divorce. it's not that i think badly of someone, it's just that i wonder what happened and it makes me sad. it is the death of the family. john piper said the following about marriage; "And therefore the highest meaning and the most ultimate purpose of marriage is to put the covenant relationship of Christ and his church on display. That is why marriage exists. If you are married, that is why you are married." we are destroying the covenant of our relationship with CHRIST when we end our marriages.
my parents divorce is in my top 5 of the worst things that has happened in my life. it took years for me to deal with it. i still have days where it makes me sad. the funny thing is now i look at my parents differently because of it not in a bad way i just realize as i get older that they are human. i don't believe they should have stayed married. i would not have gotten a beautiful sister and brother if they had.
marriage is very hard. you are constantly having to work and nourish it. things that were ok at the beginning sometimes change, and you have to work it out some how.
my husband and i have had battles that most individuals would not have stayed to work out. our commitment to each other and our children is what drives us. there have been times where we have thought about just getting out; it was too hard. GOD got us through and we have read ephesians 5 a lot. you have to nourish it just like you do in your relationship with CHRIST.
in proverbs there is a verse that says fools sit and wonder, while wise men ask questions. i am asking this question then; if we cannot sustain the family and the covenant of marriage then how do we expect the world not to be corrupt with sin? if GOD sees marriage as HIS holy covenant and we keep breaking it then how can we judge what is wrong with society?
i'm not a marriage guru, or know all about it but do know that marriage is not something to take lightly because people think it is going to be a fairytale. my husband and i still have issues that never seem to get resolved, and things that drive each other crazy. we still wake up though everyday knowing that we love each other and we're in this life together.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[c] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. ephesians 5:21-33
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