when i first saw my husband i remember thinking he looks really good in a baseball hat. he stills has that baseball hat and i still love the way he looks in it. over the years through all the trials all it comes down to is that we love each other. we have had way more good times than bad. we have created a life together that is still growing.
we still tell each other everyday that we love each other. we still kiss. we still hug. we still snuggle. we still laugh. we still do all the things we did when first found each other. now, we just have to maneuver ourselves around our kids. we are still learning from each other and we still want to.
they say opposites attract and in our case that is true. my husband calms me down and is actually one of the few individuals that i will accept "no" from. i push him more than i should, so that he can see that when he sets his mind to it - it turns out extraordinary. he is laid-back almost to a fault, and i am passionate almost to a fault. what we feel in situations is totally opposite. we just have had to learn that over the years and be accepting of it (actually, we just learned this one).
in the book "the five love languages" it talks about what your love language is - what makes you feel loved. my husband's is "words of affirmation" and mine is "acts of service." we're a mix of the others, but those languages are the most important to each of us. we're still learning how to do those. what it all really comes down to is that we feel supported by each other and loved by each other.
my husband and i did the "love and respect" marriage conference and then the 8 week study after. it was the best thing we have done for our marriage. it holds us accountable in GOD's plan for marriage. it really showed us what we as individuals can do to destroy our marriage if we don't confront it. we learned what we were doing to each other over the years that was not good for our marriage.
in 1 corinthians 13 it talks about what love is. it is all the mushy stuff, and all the stuff that you don't usually associate with love. love is what holds us accountable - GOD's love. GOD's love is what makes us face all our demons, and all the beauty that we have inside ourselves.
my mom's sister and husband have a marriage that is truly the definition of what a marriage should be. first of all, they live for each other. they are kind, supportive, respectful and most of all compromising. they step out of their comfort zones for each other. they had this while their son was at home and it never changed after he left. they put each other above everyone. they never let others come in between them. that is GOD's plan for marriage. marriage continually trains you for how your relationship should be with CHRIST.
i love my husband more today then i did when we got married. we have had to face trials that most marriages would not survive, but because we are willing not to give up shows how much we trust that GOD's plan for our marriage is more important. GOD put us together for a reason and i thank HIM for that.
"21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[c] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." ephesians 5:21-33
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